Sarah Called Her Husband ‘My lord’

The scary ‘S’ word scares more women than men- Submission…the perception is that one signs her life away by accepting this biblical principle. The truth is, no one makes you become submissive. If you think that a man is going to walk into your life sweep you off your feet and you suddenly become submissive, 

I am sorry to burst your bubble…for lack of a better metaphor, that would be ‘infatuational’ submission and it won’t last, if the desire to be submissive was not there in the first place…when that man stops doing or being that dreamy knight, the smoke clears and the infatuation submission goes with it.
 Many do not appreciate that we live in a world where you can practice who you want to be, before you get married. In biblical times, women had to teach daughters what they should do, the daughters did not have male friend/boyfriends to practice on (I am not talking sex) In our day and age, you have an opportunity to cook, clean, interact, etc. with male friends to check on your skills, but instead, most will say ‘I will do that when I get married’. 
Yes, some will do them, but for how long? Many a times women say ‘he is not my husband’ so that justifies ill treatment. You should take advantage of the opportunity to prepare a male friend or even boyfriend for what he ought to expect in a women in marriage (men you ought to do the same) If you have mood swings now and think ‘he’ will take them away, you are wrong my dear, you ought to start working on that now, on your own or with the male friends you have around you…if you lack patience, work on it now, if you can’t cook, clean, care, listen, share,
 (not just your possessions, but your space as well) you need to start now, no miracle happened when you say ‘I do’ What makes you give more to a man that you see once or twice a week, than the one you see everyday? A warped sense of priorities, I call it…how many women are willing to carry their male friend/boyfriend/or even husband’s notes and bible into the church on Sundays? But, women would almost kill each other to carry the pastor’s…they will have water for him, some will kneel down or courtesy to greet him, but he is not your husband, probably will never be because he has his own wife.
 The bottom line is that you have made yourself believe that he deserves it just because he is a pastor…your male friend/boyfriend/husband should get the same and more just because he is that…the reason you can do this for the pastor is the same reason you can do it for you husband to be…YOU CHOOSE TO The man does not have to do anything fantastic for you to do it…you CHOOSE to do it…it is a choice one makes and then you practice it till you perfect it…I
 choose to be patient, not because I have a good husband, but because I chose to be…but having a good husband helps, still his good nature will always be secondary to my choice. This perception that no one can teach you any thing is so wrong, people are in your life for that purpose, for you to have a swinging door of -I build you up and you build me up- but, we don’t take advantage of it…unfortunately the warped sense of priorities is why some (and I say some) pastors take advantage of women, even some married women, because they have assigned a position to him (the pastor) greater than their husband’s. By Kehinde Dacosta-Lawrence