A Loss Of Libido: In your marriage or with your partner: how do you get over it

Loss of Libido can be common, it varies from one person to the other, as well as for different reasons, losing your Libido is not saying your world is over, so please   don’t panic or stress too much, until you know the reason why, it can be very  common with new mums who just gave birth, mums with toddlers, lack of confidence , feeling  unattractive,
as well as  stressful jobs can also cause it,  so all of the above is one way or the other related to stress, in this case a bit of confidence, yoga,  body massage, bit of excising, even your diet,  should do the trick of giving you back your loss Libido, but in some  other cases it can be more serious problem or underlining issues, which is suffering from a lack of interest in sex as a result  some kind of medical issue, in cases like this than your best place to be is your doctor,  please do see your doctor about the various kind of  treatments available for those who have medical issues with their lack of interest in sex.

• Mums with toddlers: with toddler
• kids keeping you very busy, and running round after them can make you feel tired, and uninterested in sex, but you do need to organise your time, your self, and the kids, there is nothing like organisation, it keep you ahead of things, gives you a relaxed and easy life.  You must first start with your self, get a time table, a diary, organise your time and your little ones, they should have a routine from as early as 6 months, bed time should be between 7 and 8 pm, bed time must be bed time. so you know from 7 or 8 pm is me time with other errands that needs to be done or with having a relaxed time with you partner, you do need to follow your time table to the core, remember your home is your domain, yes your very own special camp, were in order to function to you fullest you have to follow a set of rules. Every chore should have days and time when it done, that way you reduce the stress of taking care of toddlers and your family.
• lack of confidence: this is a big issue, but most of us don’t see it that way, that little things like lack of confidence can extend to our bed room, you do need to build your self confidence, one way of doing it, is to first accept you have a low self confidence, than you can start to work on your self, find out why the lack of self confidence, from there you can talk to your partner about it, and with or without your partners help you can get your self out of that mood of low self confidence, why am using the phase with or without your partner, is because this process of getting your confidence back is all about you, not about anyone, so if your partner can not understand you, than you just have to do it your self, getting your confidence back is really important and it all about you. there are different things you can do, you can start by taking a course, changing your dress style, getting a new job, doing yoga or joining a dance class, but first you need to know the underlining problems before you go ahead to do any thing, and remember it all about you as well as rediscovery .
• Feeling unattractive: this can be a bit frustrating when you are feeling unattractive, it very common to mums who just gave birth, or those who added a bit of weight, but you can always work your way through, for mums who just gave birth, just take your time, give your self a little pamper, or those who are feeling the weight, a bit of excising and a change in diet can help.
• Stress of working: the stress of working all day, than coming back home, to the chore, who has time for sex after an extremely hard day, but you can also beat that, by organising your self, your chore, your work, believe this,  if the work is that stressful than maybe it time to start looking for a new job, life is too short not to live it to the fullest.
• Signs of sadness: some time feeling sad can also lead to lack of interest in your sex life, so you do need to work on that issue, understanding why you are sad, and than working through a process that will help you to over come your sadness. Betty Nwabunike